Autism Saved My Life – Sophie Lavender’s TED Talk1 min read

This is my TedTalk which explores how surviving violent child abuse shaped me into the person I am today.

Being autistic served as a shield and fountainhead of strength from the toxic, narcissistic, and violent abuse I endured. This talk explores leveraging the positive and enchanting side to being autistic as a way to survive the unthinkable– such as the unique sense of individualism which prevented me from absorbing my father’s toxic traits and behaviour.

I look at the resilience we autistic people have against a world full of terrifying darkness and the strength we have to truly be ourselves in a society that tries to fit us all into the same shape and box.

This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. See more of Sophie Lavender on twitter and instgram @ShalomLavender


Sophie Lavender a professional photographer, film maker, and a stand-up comedian. Born and raised in York, she moved to Lincolnshire to start a new life shortly after being diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome (Autistic spectrum). In February of this year, she was diagnosed with ADHD. Her latest project was a feature length film on Steampunk culture, which was a big hit at the world’s biggest steampunk festival, Weekend at The Asylum. Libra sun, cancer moon, and Gemini rising. Witty Ravenclaw and token Lesbian. Like my work? Buy me a coffee!

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  1. I am glad you survived. I am glad your life is not destroyed. You shared something very difficult and it’s cool you are still here.

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