Love is a deeply personal experience, the joining of two individual worlds into a meaningful partnership, and it can be a magical thing. When two people not only love each other– but can truly understand and accept each other– they … Read more “The Ultimate Empathy Gap: Can Neurotypical-Autistic Pairings Truly Work?”
Hello, I’m Jaime, and I’m an autistic woman. As an autistic woman of a certain age (I’m 39), I grew up in the 1980s and 1990s when, in order to be seen as autistic, you absolutely had to be three … Read more “The Painfully High Price of Autistic Masking – Part 1”
Aspie-neurotypical relationships often start out with intense passion, then fizzle and devolve into disaster. For the purpose of this article, I have used the word “aspie” instead of “autistic;” however, the two terms should be considered interchangeable in this article. … Read more “Why Your Asperger’s-Neurotypical Relationship Is Failing”
When I originally wrote this post for my now-defunct blog, I didn’t know I was autistic. If I recall correctly, we were in the middle of the diagnosis process for my daughter. At around sixteen months old she presented with … Read more “Autism and Pregnancy: A Birth Experience”
Autism Science is a strange little corner of research and medicine. It seems to attract a host of researchers who must have been at the bottom of the class when they learned about the scientific method. Or ethics. Or research … Read more “Autism “Science”… Can Poo Milk Cure Autism?”
Are you confused about person-first language? Have you been caught in arguments over whether you should say “autistic person” or “person with autism”? Are you confused and wondering how to avoid insulting people by accident?
Let me explain how person-first … Read more “Person-First Language: What It Is, and When Not To Use It”
I went on my first date when I was about twenty. I know. I’m too cute to be such a late bloomer. I’m autistic. I also have anxiety, selective mutism, PTSD, and ADHD. I thought my first date would be … Read more “Weird Shit Happens When the Lights Go Out: Dating While Autistic”
I asked some of my autistic friends, and this is what they had to say:
Because I forget that it matters to you when I’m focusing on what you are saying.
-Carol Millman, Vancouver, BC
… Read more “Autism: Why I Don’t Do Eye Contact”
I don’t make eye contact
It’s my island, mine alone, so I’m alone.
Singing to myself and the sea.
With equally endless ever-churning fractal blacks above and below me.
And the pattern repeats, too far out for me to see, but there must be an … Read more “Poem: SSR Island”
If you’ve spent any time wondering if you might be autistic, the first thing you probably did was examine the diagnostic criteria from the APA’s Diagnostic and Statistical Manual (DSM), right? But when you read them they probably sounded really … Read more “Humanizing the DSM Diagnosis for Autism”